I’m a verbal processor, and my in real life friends ought not the bear the weight of my issues on their own. No, I’m gonna bring the whole internet in on this one.
It’s been a bad hair year for me, friends. It started with the expected but still un-welcome Postpartum Hair Loss. Then a two-month stint of me trying to go no-poo again (with the same discouraging results as last time.) Then, the most expensive hair cut I’ve ever gotten didn’t turn out to have quite the right amount of layers, which led to a sleep-deprived-induced moment of insanity in which–I still shudder to say it–I cut my own layers.
That hack job is still trying to grow out.
Then there were the lice. (I haven’t told you about our lice yet, have I? I promise to tell you all about it when I’ve recovered from the trauma. Maybe 5 years.) Then trying 3 different more natural shampoos to try to avoid sulfates, with more discouraging results. Then the infamous New Hair Growth after the aforementioned Postpartum Loss giving me a frizzy halo all around my hair line whenever I wear my hair up.
Suffice to say, this is the closest I’ve ever come to buzzing it all off.
I’m a firm believer in finding one’s personal style (be it clothes, hair, or a make up routine) so we don’t miss out on the joy God intended for us to find in embracing beauty. (Gosh, I wrote a book on that very idea, so I really ought to be practicing what I preach.)
(A rare example good hair day, when I actually had time to turn on my curling iron.)
But good hair days have been few and far between this year. I have cried about, yelled at, and maligned my hair now for months. I have finally come to the very difficult realization that it’s time for a change.
Which terrifies me.
That’s where you come in. I need ya’ll to talk me through submitting myself to the scissors for a new look that works for the season I’m in and the current state of my hair. I’m hoping there’s at least a few of you out there who have similar hair, or similar requirements for a low-maintenance hair style and can encourage me that there is an option besides The Buzz.
- My hair is wavy (not curly, not frizzy, not straight).
- It can hold a curl well (with heat, wet set, or even gel and a diffuser)–but I rarely have time to for that extra effort.
- I have an unholy terror of my hair being too short to pull out of my face.
- This fear is second only to going even shorter, finding I can’t stand it, and having to grow out a pixie, which I hear is Pure Purgatory.
- I don’t really have the budget for a cut that needs to be maintained every 6 weeks.
- I don’t have a straightener, and suspect I’d not find the time for that any more than my curling iron.
After much deliberation and scouring Pinterest for inspiration, I feel like a Lob might be the option for me—you know, that funny name for a Long Bob? My thought is this will give my hair some style, while also leaving the front ends long enough to pull back when I need to. I also feel that it would grow out nicely if I don’t feel like getting my hair cut again for 6 months. Plus, if I didn’t like it, there’s always room to go shorter, right?
(From my Pinterest board. I adore the main photo with the asymmetrical cut, but don’t know if I could actually pull it off. I think on me it would probably look like a mistake more days than not…)
When I ran this latest idea by Mr. Holden, he asked me if I was going to have an identity crisis by doing something so moderate as getting a mid-length cut. “You’re usually so extreme.” He reminded me. I’m glad I have someone around to speak truth to me, even when it hurts. But he still needs some practice helping me verbally process. So, I’m turning to you.
What do you think? What would you do if long hair just wasn’t working for you anymore, but you were afraid of short hair? Am I being entirely too conservative with a Lob, or have you gotten one and loved it? What’s your favorite cut for wash and go, or almost-wash-and-go?
Any and all opinions, advice, inspiration, hair horror stories, or miracle cures for Postpartum Hair Crisis welcome. I believe in verbally processing the major decisions in life.
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